The Flesh

So I've been in Romans and it's all about faith vs. flesh/works. And to be honest, it hits close to home.

In everything I do, whatever the outcome, I think that "if I just did this or that, that the outcome would have been better than what it was". I have this idea that if I just do the right things, that the event/relationship/friendship/project would have turned out better. So I struggle with the fact that it was God and God alone that has given me salvation and I can do nothing to earn.

I live in a world of "what if". It's a stressful world, littered with heartache, discouragement and disappointment with myself. There is redeeming value in it, because it makes me analyze and determine how I can better handle a situation, but there is always a frustration that I didn't handle things better in the first place, as then I wouldn't be in the particular situation that I am in. but how do I get out of it? How do I change my mindset to not ALWAYS look back at what if, and look ahead? no answers here...just crickets.. ;)