Too Ready

can you be too ready for something? In light of my recent breakup, I've been doing a lot of soul searching and wondering if I was too ready to get married, that I started too fast, too quick, making the pace uncomfortable and as a result, ruined what could have been an awesome relationship. I'm not moaning and groaning over the relationship, (any more than is appropriate in my eyes) I'm trying to understand myself a little more, to "figure out what went wrong".

Yeah, that may not be the right attitude to have, as that's a road filled with regret and pain to think "if I could have just done xyz, that the relationship would have been ok." But feelings of inadequecy invariably come into the mix, thinking that I wasn't good enough, that I didn't do the right things, that I need to be more xyz, or less abc, or "I should have been more myself and not try to please her...", etc, etc. But that is the way of things. In the back of my mind, I wonder how many "chips" I have now that I have dated 2 girls in a little over a year, and whether I need to "rest" this year to accumulate more chips....my chip theory comes back to bite me.